Who Is In Your Village?

At a recent ED Stakeholder’s Forum, a young college student spoke about her family. She is the oldest of four children, two of her younger siblings have IEPs, and her mother only speaks Spanish. Her mother wants the best education for her children, however, like so many parents, does not have the resources (such as language proficiency, knowledge about the school system, or social capital) to ensure that they receive needed special education services. The young woman has taken responsibility for attending her sibling’s IEP meetings and translating for her mother. For these children, and many like them, the notion of “parent” has to expand. The older sister is an invaluable part of communication between family and school about the children’s needs. There are also undoubtedly other members of their “village” working together to make this family successful.

In looking at the issue of chronic absenteeism, for example, My Brother’s Keeper and Attendance Works encourages families to identify “back-up” people to make sure that students attend school regularly. Most parents, whether their child is in preschool or a graduating senior, can attest that it’s always helpful to have someone to rely on to help care for our children – the neighbor who makes sure children are safe at the bus stop, the grandmother who watches children after school, the friend who tutors in math, the community leaders who provide educational activities after-school, the coach who requires homework sessions before sports practice, the friend who is the designated emergency pick-up when a child gets sick at school. Each of our villages is wide and varied, and they are all equally important.

As the school year continues, take the time to identify and celebrate the people in your village. Notice where there may be empty seats, where your family could use more help and try to find people who can help you. Ask your schools and faith-based organizations, friends and social circles. You may be surprised at how many people are waiting to be asked and are willing to say “yes” to being a part of your village to raise your child.

Share with us on social media! Who is in your village? Share your pictures or words on Twitter and Instagram with #myVillage @FamiliesatED. We want to see your wonderful village!

Frances Frost is the U.S. Department of Education’s first Family Ambassador.